Hey mommas! Ok, this mom-thing is hard work!! I don’t know about you, but I feel exhausted all.day.long! Don’t get me wrong, being a mom is my greatest joy in life, but my hardest job by far. We need to keep ourselves energized and on-point each and every single day. This is why it’s so important to find time for yourself.
Mom time is so crucial to re-energize your batteries after day in and day out of trying to take care of everyone else. But you don’t usually put yourself high on the list of priorities, do you? That stops now after you find out why mom needs time to herself every day and how to get those minutes in every day.
Mommy burn-out effects everyone in the entire family. Here are some of our favorite ways to avoid mommy burn-out:
- Find your “tribe.” Get a group of your mommy friends to just “hang” out. You don’t have to anything, but take the kids to the park and let the kids run wild, while you sit back under a shade tree and enjoy some adult conversation.
- Let Dad do some of the work. I am blessed with a hands-on dad. But sometimes I’m so guilty to just take over and do the tasks myself. I sometimes have the attitude that I will just do it so I know it’s done. However, I need to let go more, and let dad do some of the mommy duties!
- Stop feeling like you’re a failure! Stop it! Right now! We all feel like a failure at some point in time during motherhood. Stop worrying. It’s bad for your health, and guess what, it’s ok if our kids have frozen fish sticks for dinner. They will survive and still go to bed full and happy!
- Let your children do things for themselves. Yes, let go and let them do it. Yes, they might make a mess, but how will they ever grow up if we keep doing everything for them.
- Take a day for yourself. Yep, I said it. Leave the kiddos with dad. He can handle it. Go for a pedicure, a girls lunch, whatever makes you happy go do it.
- Go grocery shopping by yourself. This is a challenge. I have three kids, and going to the store with all three is quite the nightmare. For working moms, try and go on your lunch break or right after work. It’s like a 30 minute vacation! For stay-at-home moms, ask one of your mommy friends for a play-date and tell her you will repay the favor!
- Put the kids to bed early. One or maybe two nights a week put the kids to bed about 30 minutes early. Then put your feet up, turn on Netflix and relax. The housework can wait until tomorrow.
- Create a schedule. This is especially helpful for Summer. Kids thrive on routine, I do too quite frankly. Involve the kids when planning, they will take pride in helping and knowing what is expected of them. For example, they will know that after a fun activity they have quite time to read or rest. This is my favorite part of the schedule. 😉
- Let your kids be kids. We are all so worried that our kids will mess up, fail, the list goes on and on. Let them be little, let them make messes. I know the mess part is easier said than done. But this can also be a teaching moment for them. They make the mess, they clean it up.
- Talk about your feelings. So often we mothers and women keep our feelings inside. We say things like “I’m fine,” or “sure I’ll do that.” Speak up, say no to an event if your not feeling like going, tell your spouse you need more help, take help from others when they offer it. Sometimes this is extremely hard, but we all need a little help every now and again.
Motherhood is such a beautiful and full-filling adventure. If we don’t take time for ourselves we will miss so many of life’s littlest, most important moments.
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