While I love the fall, it also brings about many hobbies for my husband that often leave me at home alone with the kids and the never-ending list of chores. While I’m happy my husband has hobbies that he enjoys, I find myself frustrated at times because I feel like I don’t have the luxury of spending anytime out of the house doing things that I enjoy. I don’t want to seem like a “nagging” wife, but we miss him when he isn’t at home and I would love to have a little more family time in the fall. Suggestions for helping me talk to my husband about this without coming across as needy or annoying? I don’t expect him not to have hobbies, but are there ways we can all get involved?
I operate best when I’m on a schedule. Let him know how your feeling and propose a specific time and day of the week dedicated to family time (ex. Wednesday after work, we meet at the park). Or if you need some alone time to do your own thing, ask him to handle your responsibilities a couple days of the week so you can get out of the house.
My fall always seems to get dominated by events as much as hobbies. Of course, fantasy football, college football, pro football, MLB playoffs are also major distractions for me and since my wife is not interested in any of those activities, it puts a little tension on things. We will probably try to go on some hikes or walks to try and spend time together and get out and enjoy the nice weather.
I actually have the opposite problem, so I am having a hard time answering this question. My family and I are very busy in the fall–all of us doing separate things. When we do have a spare minute, I like to spend time together as a family. My wife often encourages me to go do something with friends, but I like spending any down time I may have with my family. Guys, I would recommend making the time for your family. Your wife will be happy and you may just end up having a good time!
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