The end of first quarter is quickly approaching and I am worried my child is already falling behind. I have tried to talk to my child’s teacher, but I feel like they are not taking my concern seriously. My child’s teacher says she is fine and we should give it more time, however, I am worried if we don’t help my daughter now, she will fall more and more behind. Should I trust what the teacher is saying and let it go? Or do I try to reach out to another source, and if so, where to do I turn?
I think the parent should try to trust the teacher, however staying in connection with the teacher will be very beneficial! This parent needs to have prepared questions…specific questions and concerns that can be asked of the teacher. To see work that is comparable to the daughter’s peers is not unheard-of. The teacher can not show the parent other students work, but examples can be brought into the conversation. I truly believe in communication!
When children begin to struggle in school it is hard on everyone. Parents feel hopeless when they recognize their child is struggling, but don’t know what resources are available to help. Parents want to try to fix the problem, and worry if it isn’t fixed quickly the child will get further behind and become frustrated and not like school.
Turning to the child’s teacher is the first step in the right direction. It is very important to voice concerns to the child’s teacher as soon as worries arise. Teachers like to establish a classroom community and solid routines before determining a child as a struggling student. Usually by first quarter conferences, the end of October, a teacher is more aware if the child just needed a consistent routine, or is seriously struggling with academics. During Parent/Teacher conferences communicate concerns with the teacher and work together to determine a plan. Teachers realize the benefit of a school/home partnership and working together to help the child is powerful.
If the parent still doesn’t believe their concern is being taken seriously, make an appointment with the school principal to express concerns. Parents need to surround themselves with a team that only wants what is best for the child. The best advice is to begin establishing a positive relationship with the teacher and the school to work together for the child’s success. Don’t give up, if concerns are not addressed, keep trying until concerns are being heard.
This is a tough situation to be in. I have to say trust the teacher for now. The teacher is trained in their craft, they know how to take students from where they are to where they need to be.
As a parent you are concerned about that final grade and rightfully should be. It is important to advocate for your child, but also trust in the teachers abilities. That teacher is also concerned about the final grade for your child, but is doing what they can to ensure that the learning that is taking place is going to stick around and help your child build a strong foundation moving forward. This takes time and may not be reflected on a grade check right away.
Don’t feel like your only option is let it go or take it a step higher. If you’re worried that nothing is being done, reach out to that teacher, ask them about the strategies and resources they are using to help your child improve. Ask what can I do at home to support and encourage my child to help them stay on track? This is a nice way to show that you are involved and concerned, but also get more information and feedback on the learning process. A phone conference or face-to-face conference between parent and teacher can solve a lot of issues.
If you still feel that your child is not receiving adequate help and support then contact the counselor or principal in that building. At that point you would have a lot more information and be able to illustrate the steps you’ve already taken with the teacher should that not be successful.
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