Name: Skyler (Beebe) Bowman
What are the names and ages of your kids? Oliver B is 11 and Evan is almost 7 mo!
Where are you from and how long have you lived in Southwest Missouri? I am as local as they come! I have lived in Cassville all my life. Sure, I’ve tried to venture off a few times but you always come back to a good thing.
What is your favorite thing to do with friends in SWMO? We enjoy Branson. Our family loves Silver Dollar City and it’s always fun to meet up with friends there and let the kids go nuts. Also, we love Roaring River. As I get older I appreciate the park more and realize there really is lots to do there.
Was there anything you wanted to do before becoming a mom? Did you do it? I had loads I wanted to do before becoming a mom! Maybe that is why I waited until I was 35 to have my first baby! I was 31 when I began to practice my mom skills with Oliver B, who was 6 at the time. I wanted to travel the world, do wild and crazy things and blow my money on senseless purchases! Yes, that is exactly what I did before becoming a mom.
We understand that you love to travel! Now that you have a baby, do you plan to continue to travel? Any ideas you could share with other moms when it comes to traveling with little ones? I want so bad for my kids to crave new places and to appreciate this wonderfully massive world we live in. Books are amazing to spark the imagination but my plan is to impress upon them the desire to touch it, see it with their own eyes, smell it and taste it! I am excited and maybe a little nervous for our first trip with Evan. We are heading off on a road trip to Mt. Rushmore and the other sights South Dakota has to offer! My plan is to see how this goes and then graduate to a destination that requires a plane ticket. I already plan to make goody bags to pass out around us on our first plane ride to explain and apologize for what may happen during the flight (ear plugs, Tylenol, mints, gum ect). I think Evan will do good, it’s me I’m worried about. I never imagined how much “stuff” would be required to get around with Evan. I’m already trying to figure out how to condense my own bag and I am already a carry on only person! I have done plenty of research on our itinerary so there will be plenty of stopping and stretching our legs and picnics along the way. I figure that Evan is just like me and snacks make anything better so there will be plenty of food!
One last important thing, I realize and expect the trip to not go according to plan. Things will change and we will just go with the flow!
How has parenthood been different than you imagined? I had no idea it would be like this. I thought I would just magically know what to do since Evan and I are bonded, we share DNA, we are in tune with each other. I would be able to calm him with my soothing momma voice and simple touch! I imagined during nap time I would develop the most beautiful artistic baby book ever. I would take my own monthly pictures to save money and they would come out frame worthy every time. I now know there is so much wrong with those ideas! I can remember him crying in the middle of the night and I had tried everything to soothe him. Finally, I just sat in front of the dehumidifier (for the white noise) and we just cried together. Everyone told me I would be tired and get little sleep. I wasn’t scared, I have been up for 48+ hours on long layovers with uncomfortable trains, planes and cabs, I have been tired. This, being a parent to a newborn sweet tiny human, is something else! This is Exhaustion beyond comprehension! I didn’t even know I could function on such little sleep. I cherished the little things, taking a shower eating an entire meal from start to finish without microwaving it. But, I also never imagined I would love it so much either. Now with Oliver B, I never imagined having the discussion of “Why do I have to wear a coat when it’s snowing outside?”
How has it been better than you imagined? I wish I could put into words how happy and fulfilled I am with being a mom. I didn’t know how good it would feel when I walk in a room and Evan lights up and starts kicking his feet because he recognizes me or how fun it is to see him experience something for the first time and be amazed. Hearing Bye love you from Oliver B is always wonderful but when it’s yelled while running off with his friends or around witnesses it’s amazing!
You have such a happy, fun demeanor. What is your secret to having such a positive attitude? We know you have to have hard days too! I wish I could expose a secret but it’s simply because I have so much to be happy about! I have been so blessed in life with amazing family, great friends, good place to work, incredible good looks (I’m kidding!) that it just comes easy to be happy.
Being positive is a choice and I just try my best to always choose to be happy.
It does help that I am naturally an excitable person. I do have hard days and since they don’t come often they come hard. I’m sure, to my husband, I over exaggerate the severity of those bad days. I find a good cry in the shower and box of cookies will usually do the trick to get me back on the happy train.
What’s something your friends might not know about you? That I am extremely claustrophobic. I blame this for the fact that I never could swaddle Evan tight enough because it stressed me out thinking of him being so tightly bound!
One word that describes your parenting style: Engaging.