This month, we wanted to feature a local mom with a neat love story (in honor of Valentine’s Day, of course!). Meet our friend Jill LeCompte!
Where are you from and how long have you lived in Southwest Missouri?
I was born and raised in Cassville, Missouri where I also attended school. I was senior class president and cheerleader captain.
Kid’s names and ages: Victoria is 25 and teaches kindergarten at Eunice Thomas Elementary in Cassville. Zane is 24 and is finishing up at Missouri State University. He works at our hardware store, Michael’s Hardware, in Cassville. Jillian is my youngest child and she is 13. She is a seventh grader at Cassville Middle School.
When did you and your husband, Michael, start dating?
Michael and I were in band together when we were in junior high. I played trombone and Micheal played the trumpet in the row behind me. After Christmas of my seventh grade year, I noticed that Michael, who is a year older than me, was constantly blasting his trumpet in my ear. I told the teacher/band director and he got in trouble, however he continued to play his horn as loudly as he could without getting caught. I just thought he was a really poor trumpet player. One day, after band, I was turning the corner, heading to math class and Michael came up to me and knocked my books out of my hands…laughed and ran away. The next thing I knew, Carol came to help me pick up the mess and handed me a note stating: “Michael wants to know if you will go with him. Yes or No?.” I have been in love with him ever since.
We were boyfriend/girlfriend until he went to ninth grade and then he broke up with me. 🙁 We both dated other people, but remained, “friends.” We really just annoyed each other and we were really unkind to each other. We were both very active in student council, band, jazz band and he was in football and I was a cheerleader, so were were together several periods of the day because of our class schedule and activity choices.
My junior year/his senior year, I was on a date with someone else…at a party….with other kids who were doing things they shouldn’t. Well, my date became extremely intoxicated and was sick in the restroom. Michael came to the party. He began teasing me about how well I picked men to date… and I said, “I don’t care what you think… I’m just worried how I am going to get home…. Michael instantly said, “Hop in my car. I’d love to take you home.’ I left my date puking on the bathroom floor and got in Michael’s car.
We have been together ever since.
How long have you all been married?
On May 15th we will be married 31 years.
What do you and Michael most have in common?
Being from Cassville is probably the thing we have most in common…The people, the community, and the community’s well being is a huge part of our lives. Of course our three children consume nearly our every thought, decision, and lots of energy…we have that in common since 1992.
We both attended the University of Arkansas, so we both love the Razorbacks and we love to go to our old “stomping grounds,” visit friends and eat out.
We both love to drive. We love to get in the car, and drive around and explore other towns and look at the scenery! Family is HUGE for us! We have monthly birthday parties we attend and all holidays are spent with them!
What do you and Michael mostly disagree about? And how do you work through that disagreement?
Michael and I are different. I go to bed early and he goes to bed late. I get up really early and hit the floor running…he barely climbs out of bed and stumbles around lost. I am a strong republican and he is a strong democrat. We really don’t disagree much. We are both very easy going. I think we know each other well enough that we can read each other’s body language and we have enough respect for each other to not push buttons, provoke or intimidate. We learned very early on that outside influences like politics, family, religious affiliations, and money can KILL a marriage and we both REFUSE to let any of those affect us. I approach “problems” as questions to him and we work issues out together. I respect him and he is ultimately the boss. Folks may think that I run the show, but NOTHING going on unless he knows and approves. AND he is the same with me. We don’t bring up silly issues to get a rise from one another. IT’S not worth it to us!
When we don’t communicate; when we try to hide problems from each other; when we don’t spend enough time together, our relationship gets very volatile. We try to get away…date night… once a week or every other week to visit, recap, and discuss what we need to. We will drive to Rogers, Shell Knob, or somewhere to eat and talk the entire way there and back. God has been very good to Michael and I. We have so many blessings we don’t really even realize what they are! When we get overwhelmed, we turn to our Lord and he never fails us! He is good to us all the time, even when Michael and I don’t deserve it… We realize it is HIS plan and HIS control….. not ours. Communication between us and communication with GOD is the key!
If you could have an entire day with just you and Michael, how would you spend it?
Spending the entire day… We were so fortunate that last summer we celebrated our 30 years of marriage by a 12 day road trip that took us 5000+ miles west! We visited 8 national parks. It was the best time EVER. Just he and I driving down the road, making comments about scenery, making plans on where to stay, what to eat, what to see, listening to old music! THAT is my perfect day… just driving around, visiting, holding hands and just being with Michael.
Any advice you could offer to a fellow momma that may be experiencing a “bump” in their marriage?
Michael and I have had a couple of bad bumps in our 30 year marriage. I blame it on ego, lack of communication and a lot of disrespect. When we got to those places in our relationship, we looked to GOD to guide us; we put our egos aside, we spent LOTS of time together and we BOTH had to give in! Compromise is HUGE!
Reflecting over the span of your dating and married relationship, what memory do you treasure the most?
Favorite moment… there have been SO many good times with Michael LeCompte it is really hard to pick! It sounds sappy, but my wedding day was probably my favorite. I had waited for eight years to marry him and I was so happy on that day! We even honeymooned at Disney World… we were just kids I guess!
A dating memory that stands out is when I was a senior in high school and he was at the University of Arkansas… with a great amount of begging and pleading, my parents finally allowed me to travel to Little Rock to watch the Razorbacks play football. Up and back in one day of course! It was just Michael and I… I felt so special and grown up! It was a wonderful day…I ate Mexican food for the first time…LOL!
Another awesome time was just this past December when he took me shopping, but had secretly made arrangements to go to Kansas City for the weekend. It was so nice to DRIVE up there, and just be with him. NO kids, school or hardware store bothered us! Before we had children…married 5 years before Victoria came along,… we went on long driving vacations to Texas, and Florida. Those were awesome and special times for us as a couple!
Do you and Michael have any special Valentine’s Day plans or traditions?
Valentines day for us is usually busy… I am queen of Christmas, so Michael is “in charge” of Valentine’s day. He tries to purchase something for the kids and make arrangements for dinner… whether it is a meal out or he might cook and he is an EXCELLENT cook!!!! He cooks and I clean up the mess… It works out really well!